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Facehooked – How to Overcome a Facebook Addiction

Currently there isn’t an actual psychiatric diagnosis for Facebook Addiction – but at times I think there should be. Many psychologists are seeing more and more people who show 9 signs of addiction, which can occur either simultaneously or separately: Preoccupation – You frequently have thoughts about Facebook experiences, whether past, future, or fantasy. Tolerance – As with any addiction tolerance, you feel like you need to spend more and more on Facebook to get the same enjoyment or “rush.” Chasing – You’re overly focused on your posts soliciting responses or reactions from your Facebook friends. Risked romantic relationships –
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Sex, Lies and Newsfeeds

Over the course of six months, I sat with my friend’s teens, my teen clients, and other random teenagers who agreed to an interview. What I discovered is that social media is as integral to the modern day teenager’s life as home telephones were to teenagers in the 80’s. According to the May 2013 Pew Research Center’s report on U.S. teens, 81 percent of Internet-using teens reported that they are active on social-networking sites, more than ever before. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and new dating apps like OkCupid, Tinder, Blendr, and Grindr have become key players in their social media interactions.
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Is Facebook Validation, Really Validation?

The like feature is arguably another very powerful Facebook force (the other powerful Facebook force being the Relationship Status feature) because a lot of Facebook users depend on it. Facebook users do not choose to post things just to post them. What would be the point? We want our friends to see what we post and as an additional perk most of us really enjoy seeing them endorse what we share. We should strive to improve ourselves and one way to receive an objective estimation of our improvement is through feedback. This makes sense. On the other hand, maybe it’s
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Is Privacy on Facebook an Oxymoron?

I, like all of you, am not so sure anymore about what should be completely private in the social media age. Even those with professional pages on Facebook are blurring the lines between their personal and professional lives. So what are we to do with blurry eyes? Do we simply give up what we once held sacred or do we try to reach for greater levels of privacy among a not-so-private way of communicating? Who is seeing our information anyway? So far, it seems that we have three main privacy “leaks” – what we see, what our friends see, and
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Facebook Connection over Privacy

The more we post on Facebook, the more our decisions, lifestyles and beliefs become under scrutiny. How many of us can take this scrutiny or even want to? Some people seem to like the attention. In fact, some people even seek bold responses by posting over-the-top commentary and remarks intended to spark controversy. On the other hand, many of us do not like to be judged. We may not be prepared to hear the truth about ourselves. But on some level this mentality seems awfully hypocritical. If we willingly put our opinions out there, why would we expect our friends
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Video response to Derek Medina murder Facebook post

On August 8, 2013 Derek Medina from Miami posted a photograph of his murdered wife on Facebook along with a confessional: “Im going to prison or death sentence for killing my wife love you guys miss you guys takecare Facebook people you will see me in the news” my wife was punching me and I am not going to stand anymore with the abuse so I did what I did I hope u understand me “ My video response is seen here 
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When the Relationship Status Isn’t Enough

I recently interviewed with Mashable.com on couples who share Facebook accounts or over share about their relationships online. As much of a fan I am of Facebook, I recommend balanced independence on social media. There is a role for healthy autonomy in every relationship. When couples have a joint account, it doesn’t really reflect that. That being said, sometimes there are benefits to sharing an account. Older couples for example, may feel that navigating the most popular social media site is easier when done as a team. Still, for the most part, some of my clients discuss their partner’s social media behavior (or
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Discovering Your Sense of Self

In real life we form our “sense of self” mostly through our life experiences and feedback from others. We learn by constantly comparing our personal beliefs against the opinions of others. Ideally, we grow up in a healthy and loving home where our family members allow us to be ourselves. However, if our environment is less than friendly, if the constant feedback we receive from others is overly critical or negative, then our sense of self is shaken. We begin to question our self-worth, resulting in depression and low self-esteem. Resisting this negative feedback often requires an essential change in
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Facebook – A False Sense of “Self”

The creation of our Facebook personality begins with choosing a profile picture – a visual statement of how we’d like the world to see us. We then build a profile around this image, adding our relationship status, our family background, our favorite quotes, favorite songs and favorite movies. Then all of a sudden – the pressure is on! Do I share that I really like watching bad 80’s movies or should I post that I only watch intelligent documentaries? Should I share that my kids drive me insane to the point of developing a serious chocolate addiction or should I
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Forgive and Move On

You can’t change your past, so any anger, resentment or regret you are holding onto is like “Drinking poison expecting the other person to die.” It often takes a long time to get to a point when you can choose freedom over resentment and sometimes your freedom can begin by uttering three powerful words: “I FORGIVE YOU.”
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