Posts by Dr. Suzana Flores

How Many Friends Does A Friend-Whore Make?

“Friending” wasn’t a verb before social networks like MySpace, Friendster, and Facebook existed. As if our daily social interactions weren’t already complicated enough, Facebook has created a space where we’re forced to redefine social terms that previously felt very stable. Before social media, most of us met our friends through shared common interests or through introductions made by mutual friends. The depth of our connections rested on what information we shared and how often we shared it. While most of our casual acquaintances knew some things about us, access into the most private aspects of our lives was typically reserved
Read More

10 Movies That Broke Taboos

The word “taboo” comes from the Tongan tapu or Fijian tabu. The term was translated as meaning “forbidden, cursed, or unclean.” The word has been expanded to relate to any area of human activity or custom that is forbidden based on societal norms, moral judgment and religious beliefs. Film has long challenged societal taboos, pushing the envelope and disrupting what society deems proper and acceptable. Over time, however, the shock of the new is no longer shocking and taboos become commonplace. Here are 10 films that broke cinematic taboos:   1. Women in Love – First Male Full Frontal Nudity
Read More

Facebook Emotional Manipulators – The Psychological Effect

Excerpt from my upcoming book, Facehooked, due out October 1, 2014 through Reputation Books – - Whether it’s for sport or for compensation, false representation on Facebook is mostly  harmless, but when sport becomes malicious behavior people can end up being hurt or traumatized. Take Jackie, for example: I believed I had found the man of my dreams in Seattle. According to his profile, Justin was professionally successful, believed in long-term commitment, and wanted to have a wife and children one day. I began communicating with Justin when he friended me through a mutual friend. I instantly fell in love
Read More

Frida Kahlo: A Life of Savage Beauty and Defiance

A crippling road accident, polio, her husband’s countless affairs, a miscarriage, childlessness, a foot amputation, alcohol abuse and a lifetime of incapacitating chronic pain: Frida Kahlo transformed her pain into awe-inspiring art. Magdalena Carmen Frida Kahlo y Calderon, as her name appears on her birth certificate, was born on July 6, 1907 in the house of her parents, known as La Casa Azul (The Blue House), in Coyoacan, a town on the outskirts of Mexico City. Self Portrait with Monkeys (1943) Even at a young age, Frida Kahlo challenged the status quo: As a girl, she participated in boxing and
Read More

In Defense of Dark Sexual Fantasy

A few months back I met with a man who told me about his sexual fantasy involving oral sex with honey-soaked Rice Krispy treats. There’s something about the texture, he explained, that would enhance the experience. A woman I met in New Orleans shared her fantasy – she imagined herself licking chocolate off of a man’s leg “stump” after amputation. I wish I could try it…I can’t stop thinking about it. Another client shared his ultimate sexual turn-on involving urine-soaked cinnamon buns during sadomasochistic sex with his wife. Needless to say, his wife was not entirely on-board with this idea.
Read More

If It’s On My Facebook Wall, It Happened, Right?

We love talking about ourselves. In fact, research shows that talking about ourselves triggers the same parts of our brains as when we’re eating or having sex. The need toshare aspects of ourselves in’t so surprising. All you have to do is attend a cocktail party. In almost every corner you will hear conversations about a person’s life, their family, their jobs, how many networking contacts they have, the parties they attended, and how crazy they got last Friday night. People get excited when given the opportunity to share their story. And along comes the Facebook “gathering” to fulfill this
Read More

Big Brother on Facebook

When it comes to sharing information through a public forum such as Facebook, there are so many factors that play into what we can’t control online. On a more global level we are discovering that our “private” information is not so private anymore. Edward Snowden, a former contractor of the U.S. National Security Agency (NSA) and a former employee of the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) leaked top-secret details of U.S. and British government. His leaks have been the subject of great controversy. Some people consider him a hero and whistleblower, while others describe him as a traitor. Similarly, Julian Assange,
Read More

Facebook and Losing Our Grip With Reality

Excerpt from my upcoming book, Facehooked, due out summer, 2014 through Reputation Books – – Many of us are splitting our time between Facebook and interacting in the real world, and the two realities are slowly merging. If we share something on Facebook we want to tell our friends about it and when something entertaining happens to us in real life, we feel the need to share it on Facebook. This seems harmless enough until we begin to substitute one reality for another. Facebook has also caused some of our behaviors to change. Aside from feeling a compulsion to check
Read More

Facebook as the new Voyeurism

We love talking about ourselves. In fact, according to Time Magazine, researchers from Harvard University Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience Lab discovered that talking about ourselves triggers the same points of our brains as eating or sex. Think about the last time you were at a party and someone said something that caused you to think about your own experience or take it one step further and ask yourself: did it trigger emotions which caused you to want to react. Chances are you patiently (or not so patiently) waited for them to finish talking so you could then share your
Read More

Mother-In-Law hates her Son-In-law

QUESTION: My son-in-law is brainwashing my daughter. My daughter who is a VERY intelligent and SUCCESSFUL woman married [him] about 5 years ago. They bought their house last year. He’s still in medical school (that’s not the part that bothers us). The problem is that he seems to think that he can tell us when we can arrive to their house. My husband and I come over to tell them how to manage their finances, and how to raise our granddaughter so she doesn’t grow up spoiled (like my son-in-law). He has now brainwashed our daughter into siding with him.
Read More